‘Throning’ is the latest buzzword being thrown (no pun intended) around the dating scene.
While it might sound like a good thing – who doesn’t want to sit on a throne and feel like the king or queen they are? – it can actually be a harmful practice for those involved.
But what exactly is ‘throning’, and is this trend as grand as it sounds?
What is ‘throning’?
Throning is where one person chooses to date another in the hopes of enhancing their own social status. They ‘throne’ themselves by going out with someone who has more influence, status or social clout than they do.
Essentially, they try to elevate their own social standing by associating themselves with someone more popular and visible.
In most cases, the motivation behind these kinds of relationships isn’t long-term love; it’s about appearing successful and gaining a higher social status. It’s about simply being seen to be ‘sitting on the throne’ rather than building a deep and meaningful connection with someone.
This trend is driven by today’s social media culture, where online presence is heavily valued, and individuals want to appear successful or well-connected. They use these relationships to boost their personal brand or image, access new networks and increase their online following.
However, this isn’t necessarily a new dating tactic. In the past, those hoping to ‘throne’ someone might have been said to be ‘gold-digging’, ‘clout chasing’ or ‘dating up’.
What are the challenges with ‘throning’?
Let’s just clear something up, if both people in the relationship are throning and they are both aware that the relationship is being used as a way of elevating their social status, this is not necessarily a harmful thing.
That being said, it is often the case that one person will be trying to boost their reputation and ‘get on the throne’, while the other believes they are genuinely interested in them and looking for love.
As throning is a strategic dating move rather than a genuine, authentic act, this can lead to superficial relationships that are unlikely to fulfil deep emotional needs. In this case, throning can be detrimental to the unsuspecting individual who is truly looking for a meaningful relationship.
Another potential pitfall of throning is emotional manipulation when one partner is using or exploiting the other for their social standing. This can lead to much deeper trust issues.
Lastly, relationships built on throning are likely to lack the strong foundations of trust and friendship that a loving relationship requires, leading to disillusionment or messy breakups when the allure of status and popularity eventually fades.
Can ‘throning’ lead to love?
Now, it’s worth saying that there is every possibility throning could lead to something genuine.
However, as many of these relationships lack emotional depth and are often based on external benefits like money or status, this is unlikely to lead to a meaningful connection.
In order to find true love, both partners need to see each other as equals and build a foundation of trust and mutual respect. This is not something that usually occurs when throning.
Ditch ‘throning’ to find true love
Are you looking for true love and concerned that your intentions may not have been honourable in past relationships? Or perhaps your social status has caused you to be the victim of throning yourself?
No matter what has gone before, it’s time to ditch that throne.
Relationships based on real connection, not just perceived social benefit, are going to be more rewarding. So, rather than relying on gamified dating apps or social media hookups, it’s important to invest in making meaningful connections.
Working with a professional matchmaker enables you to invest more time in shared interests, mutual goals and authentic emotions.
Using their years of expertise, they will get to know who you are and what you want from a partner, so they can introduce you to someone with similar values, goals and passions. That way, you can focus on what really matters.
Remember, you’re more than just your social status, so if you’re ready to make meaningful connections, get in touch with our expert team today for a confidential consultation.
